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How NOT to get Divorced | Advice NOT to follow

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23 Dec 2015 By Jim Mullaney

This article by California mediator Arianna Jeret lays out the 12 ways to make sure your divorce costs as much as possible. Great advice for what you absolutely should not do when getting divorced.

  1. Keep fighting for what is “fair.”
  2. No matter how comfortable you feel with a settlement proposal, refuse to accept it until your attorney agrees that you should.
  3. Demand that your ex run any and all parenting decisions by you until the children are past the age of 18.
  4. Insist that your ex undergo a vocational evaluation so you can pay the least amount of child and spousal support over the shortest time period possible.
  5. Do your best to ensure that all verbal agreements you and your ex made when during your marriage are honored, regardless of how the court would likely rule on any of the issues at hand.
  6. Refuse to settle on each aspect of your divorce agreements until your ex is willing to acknowledge your value, position, opinion, rights, etc.
  7. Withhold information requested by your spouse until he or she has agreed to do x, y, or z.
  8. Every now and then, attempt to “negotiate” with your spouse directly in order to save time and money.
  9. Assume that your spouse must be hiding money somewhere and hire a forensic accountant to identify the exact origin of every penny earned and spent by each of you, personally and professionally, over the course of your marriage.
  10. Engage a child custody evaluator to decide what is in the best interests of your children. Especially since this group of “professionals” is so well known for its ethical procedures, lack of bias, and clean personal backgrounds. Or not.
  11. Stay firmly entrenched in a belief or expectation of what you should get in your settlement, particularly as based on a friend’s divorce, an article you just read, or a calculator you found online.
  12. Decide that you just want to let the judge decide — despite the fact that in the majority of cases these days many judges simply scare both spouses into going back out into the hallway to come up with a settlement agreement anyway, resulting in a minimum of less than 5% of all cases ever seeing a direct order made by a judge.

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